EFT Gear

What I Use To Record Sessions

How to record sessions, and get good sound quality, has been a constant learning process over the last year. I finally think I hit on the right formula for me, and wanted to share that here. I recorded this via video, and I'm not sure how it will show up in the emailed version of this. So if you're reading this from your email and it looks weird, come back to my site and watch it here.

It probably goes without saying, but I never record without client's explicit and written permission!

Microphone: Polar Pro, found here

Camera: GoPro Hero4

Mini SD Card Reader: The brand is Belkin, I got it a million years ago in grad school from somewhere I can't remember

Encrypted External Hard-Drive: Western Digital, found here

Therapist Gift Guide!

I’ve been giving you guys some pretty heavy, long posts recently so I thought I would lighten it up with a fun, yet practical! therapist gift guide. It's never too late to tell a therapist you love them.

The GoPro Hero4 Camera

This is the camera in it's case, but I film with it outside the case and it's even smaller. Found here on  www.amazon.com

This is the camera in it's case, but I film with it outside the case and it's even smaller. Found here on www.amazon.com

When I was looking for a way to record my sessions, I was totally surprised when someone at Best Buy suggested a GoPro. I never would have thought of an action camera for filming a therapy session. But it's super tiny, unobtrusive, and films great. The battery charge lasts about 2 hours, or you can record with it plugged into the charger. You can get a mini SD card in different sizes of storage - I have a small one on which I record one session at a time. The best part is the lens. It's a fantastic fish-eye lens which means it will capture my clients and me in the shot. 

The perpetual issue with filming, for me and everyone else I've talked to, is the microphone quality. The GoPro audio is good enough, but it won't blow your mind. I'm in an office now with a loud AC, and it's drowning out my sessions, so I recently bought a microphone attachment for the GoPro and it's being shipped as we speak. I'm really, really hoping this gives me better audio. 

When I told my co-worker that I use a GoPro to film, she thought I meant I wear the GoPro helmet on my head with the camera in session. I laughed for days about that image!


Therapist Throw

Pottery Barn throws at www.potterybarn.com

Pottery Barn throws at www.potterybarn.com

Can we ever have too many cozy, washable throws? Especially for those of us who work in older buildings where the cold seeps in through the windows. I’m not at the point where I think we should have matching couple snuggies, but I think that would be kind of hilarious.

I like the ones at Pottery Barn, and sometimes Costco has some good ones.


Dry Cleaning Gift Card

I don’t know about you, but it’s only December and already all my sweaters have sweat stains. I’ve never sweat so much in my life since I started doing couples therapy. And dry cleaning is expensive. Give the therapist you love cleaner clothes.


Oittm ceramic space heater at www.amazon.com

Oittm ceramic space heater at www.amazon.com

Space Heater

If the throw isn’t enough, and you and your clients are sitting with your arms tightly crossed to keep in the body heat, maybe a space heater is up your ally. I like that this one emits heat all around, since I’ve burned up my ankles trying to get warm from the one-directional heat.

OR if you really want to splurge, I just came across this heater/cooler from Dyson that looks glorious. 




Vitruvi Essential Oil Diffuser

Vitruvi diffuser at www.vitruvi.com

Vitruvi diffuser at www.vitruvi.com

Guys, I am so obsessed with this one. I’ve dreamed about this for 2 years, but it’s expensive so I haven’t bought it. I mean, it's $119 for an oil diffuser. But it’s white. It’s stone. It looks like Gwyneth Paltrow personally brought it for me as a hostess gift for the dinner party I threw in my Provençal courtyard.






Therapist-y Earrings

In beginning to hone my therapist work clothes style over the years, I’ve narrowed it down to “drapey layers plus jewelry” or “fancy aunt you can still hug.” I love a good low-key statement earring, and I recently found the glorious Machete jewelry and I want everything from this designer. I just bought the earrings here and I LOVE them. Her stuff is affordable, gorgeous, and unique.






Shop Machete! at www.shopmachete.com

Shop Machete! at www.shopmachete.com

The Big Kahuna

The Holy Grail of therapist chairs - The Herman Miller Setu at www.dwr.com

The Holy Grail of therapist chairs - The Herman Miller Setu at www.dwr.com

Yessssss. YES. We sit so much. Our hips hurt. Maybe there is some billionaire therapist benefactor who wants to give us each one of these.


And let's not forget a gift guide for our loved ones, who pick us up over and over when we come home saying we'll never get this right and we don't know what we're doing. I don't know what would be good enough, though. Maybe a diamond covered, massage-giving, chocolate dipped, puppy-cuddling, disco ball of gratitude?

It's Heeeeeere!

I hope you all have a happy Thanksgiving (and happy belated Canadian thanksgiving, Ted!) ! I will be reading this amazing new book from one of my most favorite EFT masters - Lorrie Brubacher. You can order yours on Amazon, "Stepping Into Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy."

I'll also be watching Hallmark Christmas movies in sweatpants, with french bulldogs snoring on me, eating stuffing and pumpkin cheesecake. I wish for you the same. 

Trading in the Couch

So I finally replaced the couch I had in my office with the two EFT chairs. I thought about this for a long time. For me, changing the furniture was a big step. I knew this would mean a commitment to devoting myself to couples and to EFT when I made this shift. And I had to figure out a way to haul the couch out and get two nice chairs in that didn’t cost a fortune.

EFT comes with changes for a therapist. I changed from 50 minute sessions to 80 minute sessions. I started video-tapping sessions (with permission). I started booking in time before and after each couples session to give myself time to prepare and to decompress. I started using a clipboard with notes in session. That is a lot of change!

I think sometimes as growing EFT-ers we need to step back and look at all we are changing and taking on. The biggest change is in how we counsel our couples. It’s so hard to try and remember everything from Core Skills, or the chapter we just read, while sitting with a couple. “I think I’m supposed to link this into the cycle, but is it really an attachment feeling? What if I heighten this too much? What if I’m not heightening it enough?” And there’s also so much peripheral change happening in the process. It’s hard to sit closer to our couples, speak slower, learn a new way of taking notes in session.

If like me, you are constantly thinking of all the things you’re not doing well, maybe we could take a step back just for a minute, right now, and see all that we are doing and changing to be the best we can be for our clients. Wow. You are working so hard to be better and more effective for your couples.

The verdict on the two chairs is that I love them for my couples. The couples look more comfortable and can see each other better than when they’re side by side on the couch. I like being able to position my chair in the middle, and it helps them see me better, too. But it’s definitely an adjustment for my individual clients, who really liked the couch. I’m sensitive to that shift for them, that I’ve created change in their environment, too. I think couples work really stretches us to hold two people in the room. Man, that is such a learning edge for me. And we also hold our individuals, too. They can get scared we’ll drop them as we are expanding ourselves and our passion for couples. I’m grateful for this process of strengthening all of these muscles and learning to hold my clients inside and outside the room.