How Learning EFT is Like Baking ...

Last night I watched the episode on Nancy Silverton from Mind of a Chef, Season 3 that was just released on Netflix. If you haven't watched this series yet, you are missing out on some of the most beautiful cinematography and story telling out there. It followed how she taught herself how to be a pastry chef and baker, and not just a baker but the baker in Los Angeles in the 1980s.

I was fascinated to watch how she talked about her "obsession" with figuring out how to make the perfect loaf of bread. She would test recipe after recipe, with slight adjustments each time with ingredients, temperature of water, rise of the yeast starter, and so on. She spoke for several minutes about how much of an obsession it is, and how the desire to get it right drives her. 

I couldn't help but think about those of us who try to learn EFT while I was watching her. We have to be obsessed. We read books, we go to trainings, we watch videos, we watch OUR videos with a supervisor so they can point out what we're doing wrong, we prepare before and after sessions with notes. I think many of us start each session with almost a Buddhist-like mantra we choose for ourselves that day: "Go Slow," or "Validate," or "Stop saying f-ing monologues and just do a simple reflection!"

While I was watching Nancy, I was thinking how much I admire her tenacity and patience, and how I wish I could feel that way about myself in learning EFT. Mostly I just focus on the fact that I'm not getting it right and that we are learning on/failing live people as we practice. The obvious difference is that a couple is far more high stakes than a loaf of bread. And yet what any baker will tell you is that the bread is almost never perfect. Every time there's a little something that could be tweaked, and you're working with alive ingredients and constantly changing temperatures. It's hard to both pursue perfection and also accept non-perfection. I wish I could approach my obsession with EFT a little more like Nancy Silverton bakes a loaf of bread.